Tears of a Clown by Smokey Robinson
Now if there’s a smile on my face
It’s only there trying to fool the public
But when it comes down to fooling you
Now honey that’s quite a different subject
But don’t let my glad expression
Give you the wrong impression
Really I’m sad, oh I’m sadder than sad
You’re gone and I’m hurtin’ so bad
Like a clown I pretend to be glad
Now there’s some sad things known to man
But ain’t too much sadder than
The tears of a clown, when there’s no one around
Uh hum, oh yeah baby
Now if I appear to be carefree
It’s only to camouflage my sadness
And honey to shield my pride I try
To cover this hurt with a show of gladness
But don’t let my show convince you
That I’ve been happy since you
Decided to go, oh I need you so
I’m hurt and I want you to know
But for others I put on a show, ooh yeah
Just like Pagliacci did
I try to keep my surface hid
Smiling in the public eye
But in my lonely room I cry
The tears of a clown
When there’s no one around, oh yeah, baby baby
Now if there’s a smile on my face
Don’t let my glad expression
Give you the wrong impression
Don’t let this smile I wear
Make you think that I don’t care
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“I’m not hurting due to lost love. I’ve lost myself.”
The Social Worker I see, knowing my personality, recommended Smokey’s lyrics when I asked her, “When should I get over my whole life turning upside down?” She acknowledges my lost. It hurts. I can’t dress that up. Sometimes I get angry at whomever is in my path. I hate that my key chain only has one key–..to our residence. I’m jealous of those who can walk. I’m resentful of those who can work. Horrible I know.
But then like Smokey (We’re on a first name basis now.) says, “These are only times, fleeting moments.” The majority of time you wouldn’t know the loss I live with, because I’m trying to move forward with it… in my back pocket!
I have to.
Unless you are my husband or my mama, no one sees these fragile moments. I do my best to hide them. Bury them. I do my best to deny them from myself too!!
It haven’t driven or worked full-time since 2009. Some say, “Big Woo. Get over it!!”
“Honestly, that sounds reasonable to me! It’s just so hard.”
“So, when should a young, successful, childless, married women with a promising career and only opportunity ahead of her get over losing the things that matter most to her?
Her answer,
“You don’t. You adapt.” she said.
Damn. I knew that!!!!!!!!
Emanuel, what do you mean?
Nicole
Just for thought: I get brushed off by many people that do not give me a chance because I am not as disabled as they. I cut myself off from opportunities to make new friends also. Jealous that they appear to be out of my league. Not sure what I really am trying to say but I tried LOL.
The A’s like we don’t know? Adapt, Accept, . …
I get it. Because for years when I was a “physically” can do, when I put more limitations on myself than MS. I counted many as out of my league! That just plain old fear. Its easy for me to say, but harder for u To live, but please don’t make The same mistake. I already traveled that road. Thanks for The read and send all your friends by!!!!! Nicole
Wow! I never knew. I never knew.
You were suppose To! Thats Job we’ll done for me! Besides who wants To be around a sour donkey? Nicole
weren’t suppose to
it’s those moments that i hate… the ones that i break down and get soft… i try so hard not to do that… but i do realize that this is going to be a life long grieving process…just when we adjust to the new normal…well, here it comes again…attacking…depleting…deteriorating once again… and a new normal must be accepted…. so i now know there will always be grieving… fun shit…
i, like you, do what i can to put on that happy face…. when asked how i’m doing i give the pat answer…”fine… good days, bad days….” and that’s it… because most people dont’ REALLY want to know
Gosh, you are so right. I usually want to scream, but I’m the one living with it!” At least u can just listen. Nicole
Love this, and love you!
I can always count on you!